How To Know if a Guy Likes You or Just Wants You

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It's never easy to tell if a guy likes you or if he's just using you for your body. Sometimes it can be hard to differentiate between the two. If you're not sure whether or not the guy you're interested in really likes you, there are a few things you can look out for. In this article, we'll discuss some of the signs that a guy is only interested in your body. We'll also provide some tips on how to tell if he's really into you.

Some signs a guy is only interested in your body.

If a guy seems to be constantly trying to get you into bed, he probably just wants physical intimacy from you. He might not even care enough about you to try and get closer. He could be acting the same way with other women, too. If a guy tries to take advantage of you often, there's a good chance he only wants your body.

When a guy is really into you, he'll make it clear that he respects you. He'll treat you the same way in public as he does when it's just the two of you alone. If he doesn't care about what other people think and talks down to or disrespects you in front of others, that's a sign that he might not like you for who you are or be interested in getting to know more about you.

If a guy likes you, it will show through his actions as well as his words. A guy who actually cares about your feelings won't let arguments go unresolved or avoid coming clean with how he feels about things. When something bothers him, he'll be open with you about it.

If you're having trouble figuring out if a guy likes you or just wants your body, here are some signs that could help you figure it out.

He’s Interested in Your Life

-A guy who really likes you will be interested in your feelings and what's going on in your life. He'll ask questions about how things are going for you or show concern when something is wrong. If the only time he seems interested in what's going on in your life is if there's something he can take advantage of, then he probably doesn't care much about your feelings.

He Chooses You Over His Friends (Sometimes)

A guy who's into you will want to spend more time with you than with his friends. If all he does with you is make plans to hang out with his friends, he probably doesn't see you as more than a casual hookup.

He Wants Quality Time with You

A guy who cares about your feelings will want to spend time alone with you, too. Just because he likes your company doesn't mean he only wants the thrill of being with you. If all he's interested in doing is fooling around, then that's all he thinks you're good for.

The Feelings Are Mutual

When it comes to initiating romance or intimacy, if a guy likes you, it won't be all up to him. There are times when one person might be ready before the other and that's okay, but for the most part, both people should be on board. 

If a guy is interested in your personality, there's a good chance that he genuinely wants to get to know you. If all he seems focused on is getting you into bed and trying to make out with you as often as possible, it could be a sign that the only thing he's after is physical intimacy. He might not even care enough about you to try and take things slowly.

He’s Afraid of Rushing Things Too Fast

Even though some guys will say they want to wait until later to get physically intimate, they're usually just putting on an act for fear of rushing things too much too soon. If his actions show that he doesn't respect or admire your mind or emotions, then he isn’t the guy for you.

He's Happy To Hang Out with You and Your Friends

If a guy likes you, he'll be willing to do things like meet up with your friends or go on group dates with you. He won't feel the need to ditch your pals in order to get alone time with you. If he likes you, he'll also try his best to make sure everyone has a good time when the two of you are hanging out together. He'll joke around and talk about fun topics that will interest both you and your friends. When a guy just wants sex from you, though, it's going to be pretty obvious that he doesn't want to spend time with anyone but you.

This is another sign that he likes you for more than your body.

You Have Intimate Conversations on a Consistent Basis

A guy who's interested in you will want to talk to you about your life. He might even enjoy sharing his problems with you. The more he trusts you, the easier it is for him to talk about what matters most to him.

Looking into each other's eyes can be a sign of intimacy.

Does the guy constantly stare at your face? If so, it could be because he finds your features attractive or because he wants to make sure he knows what you're thinking at all times. Either way, his fixation on your face should indicate that he cares about how you feel.

He Is Affectionate with You (In a Non-Sexual Way)

Being affectionate with one another is a sign of compatibility.

Does the guy hold your hand or pull you toward him when he wants to show you something? If so, it's possible that he likes you and wants to be closer to you. He might even enjoy being around you as much as he does other people.

A guy who truly cares about a girl will express his interest in her often.

If the guy seems really into what you're saying and responds by asking follow-up questions or elaborating on his feelings, it could mean that he has developed strong feelings for you which aren't just sexual attraction. You'll probably notice him taking an extra second or two before responding, too.

He Is Honest and Open About His Feelings

A guy who likes you will be very honest and open about his feelings. He'll take the time to listen to what you have to say and won't play games with your emotions.

This is an obvious one, but a guy who's interested in getting to know you on more than just a physical level will ask questions that delve into your personality and interests. If he doesn't ask these kinds of questions or if he avoids them altogether, then he probably isn't as interested as you'd like him to be.

A guy can sense if a girl wants more from him than just sex, too. There are certain things that only people looking for intimacy bring up in conversation.

Signs: Conversation Topics Only Someone Who Cares About You Will Bring Up

If a guy really likes you, he'll get to know you on more of an intimate level. He might talk to you about things that are uncomfortable for him, but he'll do it because there's something drawing him in and compelling him to be honest with you. If a guy talks about his emotions or tries to get close to you by telling deep truths or sharing secrets, it's a good sign that he might have strong feelings for you.

Tips: Don't hold back when talking with this person if they're someone worth getting involved with and give them your full attention when they're speaking (don't be playing with your phone, checking your watch, etc). If a guy likes you, he'll make it clear that he's interested in what you have to say and won't try to change the topic or avoid talking about personal things.