Talk Nerdy To Me’s @StaffWriter:
Most people think that in order for a relationship to work, both partners have to get along with each other’s families. But what if you don’t like your partner’s family? Can the relationship still work?
There are a few things to consider when trying to answer this question.
Their Family Is Not Going To Change
First of all, it is important to realize that your partner’s family is not going to change. You can’t expect them to start liking you, or for things to be different just because you are in a relationship. If you can’t deal with this, then the relationship is probably not going to work.
It’s good to accept the unchangingness of their family.
You can ask yourself, “If nothing ever changes with their family, can I live like this forever?”
How you answer that question will tell you everything you need to know. It can help you figure out if you can make your relationship work even if you never get along with their family.
Figure Out the “Why?”
Second, you need to ask yourself why you don’t like your partner’s family. Is it something that they have done, or is it something about their family in general? If it is something that they have done, then it is possible that the issue can be resolved if both of you talk about it and try to understand each other’s point of view. However, if you don’t like their family because of the way they are, then it is going to be a lot harder to make the relationship work.
In this case, you need to think about whether or not you can live with their family the way they are. If you can’t, then it is probably best to end the relationship now before it gets too complicated.
Be honest with yourself and your partner about why you don’t like their family. This will help you figure out if the relationship is worth continuing.
How Hard Do You Want To Work?
A relationship can work if you don’t like their family but only if you’re willing to do the work. This means that you must be willing to try to get along with them, and sometimes that can be really hard.
But it is worth it if you really want the relationship to work.
Think about how much effort you are willing to put into getting along with your partner’s family. If you aren’t willing to do anything, then the relationship is probably not going to last. However, if you are willing to go above and beyond, then the relationship has a good chance of succeeding.
Talk To Your Partner About It
One of the best ways to make a relationship work if you don’t like their family is by talking to your partner about it. This will help them understand where you’re coming from, and it will also help them understand why you don’t like their family.
Make sure that you talk to them in a respectful way and be open to their point of view as well. This conversation can help you get closer to each other, and it can also help you work on your relationship.
If you are not able to talk to your partner about this issue, then the relationship is probably not going to last.
Are You Ready To Communicate?
If you decide that you want to try and make the relationship work even though you don’t like your partner’s family, then communication is going to be key. You need to be able to talk openly and honestly with each other about how you are feeling, and you also need to be able to talk about your family.
This can be a difficult conversation, but it is one that is definitely worth having. Make sure that you are both willing to listen to each other and that you are both open to change.
If you can’t have this type of conversation, then the relationship may not work.
You also need to be ready to communicate with their family. That can be intense, but it is also a necessary step in the right direction.
Eating Humble Pie
The relationship can work if you’re willing to humble yourself, admit any wrongdoings, and—gasp—apologize. If you’ve offended them in any way, seek forgiveness. If they don’t accept your apology, it’s okay. The fact that you’re trying to make things right shows that you’re willing to work on the relationship, which is a good sign.
How Is Your Partner Handling It?
The way that your partner is handling the conflict between you and their family can hint at how likely your relationship is to work long term. If your partner takes sides, blames you, or stirs up drama, your relationship is headed for disaster. However, if your partner is trying to find a resolution, communicate with both sides, and remain calm, your relationship has a much better chance.
Emotional Maturity Is Everything
Your relationship is much more likely to work if you and your partner display deep emotional awareness and maturity. How well do you know your feelings? How well do you express them gently to each other? If the two of you crumble in a crisis, that’s not a good sign. But, if you both freely and openly acknowledge your feelings, share them with each other, and don’t let them turn into bitterness or resentments, you have a fighting chance to make it.
The Final Decision
Making the decision to stay in a relationship even if you don’t like their family is a difficult one. It’s important to be honest with yourself about why you don’t like them and whether or not you’re willing to do what it takes to make things work. If you are, then the relationship can succeed. But if you’re not, then it might be best to end things before they get too complicated.
So, can a relationship work if you don’t like their family? It depends on the situation. If the issue is something that can be resolved with some effort, then the future of your relationship is bright. However, if you can’t stand their family the way they are, and there are no signs of things ever changing, then you might want to consider exiting the relationship.