#NerdsUnite: Ask That Nerdy Chick (how do you know when to end a date?)
IF, however, I am super into the guy, instead of calling it a night I will suggest a change of location. You never want to be "stagnant" on a first date. When you're first getting to know someone there are only so many things you can ask them (as you want to maintain surface level conversation. NEVER EVER get into politics, religion, or anything negative.). Creating a change of scenery will give you more of an organic refresh on the conversation and keep things fun and upbeat. Anytime I pick a bar for a first date, I will also make sure there are cool "plan b and c" bars nearby for alternative points of discussion.
#NerdsUnite: Ask That Nerdy Chick (I want one thing and my parents want another)
Your parents will ALWAYS want what they THINK is best for their daughter, or their son - but who are you? That is the only thing in life you ever have to solve for. It's terribly difficult breaking free from that and becoming your own person, but remember, it is all a step by step process. (And a jug of water gets filled one drop at a time.) I completely lucked out with having parents that apparently knew from when I was just a few days old that "this one was different." (I have an older brother who was apparently quite the good baby. I, on the other hand, was a terror from the womb.) My parents embraced my weirdness and told me that with hard work and my mind set to something I could accomplish ANYTHING. (Mother and father, you were both very right.)
#RealDeal: You're killing me smalls (30 day dating detox)
I'm going to now Miyagi the shit out of my life and focus on self in the hopes of that changing my energy and the kind of people I am attracting into my life. In Buddhism they teach you that peace comes from within, and you cannot seek it. I am "seeking" a partner when I am really looking to fix something within myself. I don't know what that "lack" is yet, but I know by kicking my own ass I will definitely find ... something.
#NerdsUnite: Confessions of a "catfish"-er (one year later)
All that I knew at the end of the day was that I was going to stand my ground. If I was wrong, and this person was the person they were I TOTALLY would have apologized and taken the post down.
#NerdsUnite: The Beginning of the End (my day spent at Sheri's Ranch aka a Las Vegas brothel)
We have some guys that come in here and are super conscious of energy to the point that they won't cum. If they are on a winning streak they can't release the energy. They will pay and make the girl cum but then leave. When they have a negative streak though, watch out, (and pardon the expression) but they will want to blow their load on everyone and everything.
#NerdsUnite: The difference between domme and dominatrix
I was then corrected by a reader of the site who informed me that if I called myself a dominatrix it meant I got paid for my services. What I do with my slaves is rooted in lifestyle and not income. Primary source or otherwise, I don't give a flying fuck, that was just what I was told. My perspective was skewed based on that dynamic.
#ThatAwkwardMomentWhen: You get accosted by a dude with a mullet
<tangent> BTW I am the WORST person to ever get in an argument with. I will never ever ever fight back or sling an insult at someone. It's just not my scene. Instead I remain extremely calm and start asking neutral questions to negate the scenario all together. It's the fastest way to piss someone off more sometimes, but if you can execute it correctly you will also be able to just remove yourself from the scenario which is always the best thing to do anyway. Never EVER take anything personal in life, nerds. I learned that from reading The Four Agreements after getting hit in the head with the brick.</tangent>
#CES2013: I can't believe this is real life (how im staying in a penthouse suite for free)
I'm obsessed with juxtapositions. Even though we are in this BOMB ASS pad, I'm still making everyone at the party drink two buck chuck and PBR. I love love love the classy/ trashy themes. It's like if you're going to be posh at least still keep that shit real.
#CES: Did I mention on Thursday I am going to be trained by a dominatrix at a brothel?
I don't have sex with my slaves, they only worship my feet. I get absolutely, absolutely no sexual stimulation from the experience. Rubbing my feet has about the same effect as putting a q-tip in my ear. The entire process of a session though is an EXTREMELY powerful experience. All of my slaves are super fancy pants dudes. To see these men that are held in such high regard in the community quiver and sometimes even cry in your presence is OUT OF THIS WORLD wild.
#NerdsUnite: The beauty of not getting what you wanted
My parents knew I was extremely strong willed from the womb, so to their credit they didn't discourage it they just said if you're going to do this you're going to have to work really hard. It's not the "normal" path that people take in life and the rejection rate is off the charts.