#NerdsUnite: Confessions of a serial monogamist
<editorsnote> Nerds, meet my buddy Jen. She's a graphic designer by day and a serial monogamist by night that lives across the pond in the UK. She's currently in a relationship of 8 years, and her dating record prior had been puddle jumps from 3 months here ... to 3 months there. These are her thoughts on life, love, and all things nerd. Hit it Jen!! </editorsnote>
#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Jen Randall
The start of a possible relationship, the dating part, is much like a military operation. Manoeuvres are calculated. Actions are co-ordinated. We accept we might have to go into combat (read: we will not let other suitors get in our way) to respond to this developing situation. We have a single objective and if we don’t reach it our troops will die. No really, some girls would resort to murder.
The most thought out part of Operation Date that Mate are the stealth missions. Wearing your long beige trenchcoat...
Wait... how did we get from an awesome Saving Private Ryan scene to Columbo? Oh well, just go with it, the visuals will be more amusing...
...tweed woollen sleuth hat (I picture myself more as a Jessica Fletcher mystery solver minus the writing books thing), a faux pipe (because smoking is bad) and a magnifying glass that’s twice the size of your head. You look to see where your suitor has recently ‘checked-in’ to and off you go. Tip-toeing around corners, ducking behind street lights and mail boxes, hiding in the (well lit) shadows....you know what...I’m not even sure where this is going. I got carried away with thoughts of Columbo and Murder She Wrote doing a combined episode because that would MAKE. MY. LIFE.
We unintentionally stalk our victims pray possible boyfriends / girlfriends.
Why do we do this? Because we like to have a plan!
Does it ever work? Very rarely
And why is that? Because we come off as crazy people who stalk possible suitors.
It’s no surprise our generation are a little ‘off-balance’.
The problem is, that by sleuthing (or doing special ops ) you can find out too much too fast. On the one hand this is good because you’ll find out early-on whether or not this person really is for you, but on the other hand when you’re out to dinner and he tells you he went to that he went grocery shopping and you can recount to him every single item he bought (including the condoms that you have not yet seen) you could come off as a little cray-cray.
The other thing that isn’t helped by this extra information is that you make your judgements too quick. “OH MY GOD HE DOESN’T LIKE TOBASCO...IT’LL NEVER WORK!”. You could have the most simple difference in taste on paper and you may dismiss this person instantly, which unfortunately cuts your odds of finding someone dramatically. People can’t always be everything you want them to be. But who is to say that what you think you want is going to be the right fit for you? I thought I wanted a muscular, tattooed, shaven-headed, beefcake (read: Vin Diesel) - I tried a quite a few out and it wasn’t perfect, and I ended up with a toned, longish blonde-haired, clean-cut, surfer dude (read: Laird Hamilton....but younger, thankfully)....and 8+ years down the road it’s still going well.
Google is good...but too much Googling can cause blindness....wait....what....did I miss the point!?
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