#Fact: Quit giving women reasons NOT to sleep with you!
<editorsnote> Jordan is a dating coach. But not like "a" dating coach ... lemme rephrase that, he is THE dating coach. He has a show on SiriusXM called "Game On" and he's a super smarty pants when it comes to examining social dynamics. No ... like for real. </editorsnote>
#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Jordan Harbinger
Women understand abundance very clearly. By the time they develop breasts they begin to see men in a different way. They soon find out men want sex from them and will do just about anything to get it. They have their choice of whom they will sleep with and they have to start looking for reasons why they CAN’T sleep with every halfway-decent-looking guy who buys them a drink or asks them out on a date or else they would never get out of bed. Women themselves are highly sexual people—as much if not more than we are—which makes this hard and is the reason why they have to be choosy.
This is personified in an episode of Sex and the City in which one of the women goes out to dinner with a potential mate and he accidentally gets salad dressing on the side of his face. At this point, it’s all she can think about—and suddenly attraction is gone. It is her job to find reasons—no matter how arbitrary they are—why not to invite you into her life. It is her job to find reasons to not sleep with you; so let’s stop giving them reasons.
Get cleaned up, put on some decent clothes, stop being a pussy, tell her how you feel about her, and escalate. It is your job as a man to escalate and hers as a woman to pace it. Lead the interaction, find confidence in yourself and use it. Women are looking for the following cues not to sleep with you:
- Unsure of yourself
- Bad body language
- Unable to be comfortable
- Awkward around other men and women
- Unable to be in the moment
- Lack of sense of humor
- Bending to their every whim
- Speaking to them logically while they are in an emotional state
- Neediness and approval seeking behavior
They want sex and they want it now, but why get it from you when they have a stable of guys they already know. They are bored of the guys they already sleep with. If they were not, most likely they would be in a relationship with them. They are on the prowl for better mates. You are going to have to rise above and lead them to a better man.
You are going to be him, so own it and believe it. Quit stepping all over yourself. Move one foot in front of the other and proceed like you have the tools for every job and know how to use them without a flinch or hesitation. This comes down to a basic idea of just not screwing it up!
If all you have to do is not screw it up then it should be pretty easy, right?
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