#TNTML Responds: #TrueStory: I was dumped by my fake internet boyfriend
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This is so messed up. It happened to me, too. -.- Not in such huge proportions but still. I was lucky to get out before something really fucked up happened.
So I met this guy (who was supposed to be my friend's brother) at some forum or whatever, it was even before FB and all that stuff, at least here. We totally hit it off and after some time we were replying only to each other like we were the only people on that forum. Soon, we exchanged MSN messenger addresses and pictures (and there were lots of them, even high school ones... I don't know how this stuff works in USA but here you have class photos put up on high school's page so anyone can see them). And when I checked, they matched with the ones he sent me so I was not suspicious at all.
He did claim he had a twin brother whom I was unable to find (supposedly they weren't visiting the same high school) which I found a bit odd but still, I was only interested in Jan (sounds like Ian, not like Jen :P).
We chatted all the time for hours and hours and I started to like him to the point where I fell in love with the guy. I know what you're thinking, how can a 15-year-old know when she's in love and blah blah but I was, I was totally in love with a guy I've never met in person. And all that crap was going on for months but since he lived few hrs away as well we were unable to see each other. Also, my mum would never just let me get on the bus or something and go see him.
There were times when I doubted his existence but every time something happened that took my mind off of it... We were even supposed to meet in Ljubljana (our capital) once when he was there to drop off his college application (How cool would I be dating a college dude? :)) but "something came up" like in those cases it always do.
But after almost a year it became obvious that his feeling towards me were not as deep as mine and he saw me only as a very good friend. So I kinda stopped coming online on MSN and stuff, deleted my forum account and fell into a huge depression. I was totally crushed and I don't really remember what got me back to my feet. I just realized it's not worth being half dead just because some moron can't appreciate you so I was cured in few hrs. :D Ice cream and chocolate really helped. :)
But then when I looked back on that year I actually LOST because of him I started to notice some weird stuff about his stories. They never checked with his sister's... And when he went to Greece that summer he was unable to tell me where he was (the whole 10 days!!!) cuz " he was so drunk all the time". That was when I figured out it's my friend - his sister - who's been messing with not just my but everyone's head... But I could never be mad at her, we were almost best friends, I knew her for few years and I knew she was 'real' cuz we met in person. So when I confronted her only a couple of yrs ago she admitted that Jan and his twin brother didn't exist and she felt really bad cuz she wanted to tell me for really long time and she didn't know how. At that point I lied about being in love with Jan - I told her my friend came up with that story to mess with his head but then we got so deep in it we couldn't stop lying... lame but she bought it so I kept at least a drop of dignity... The whole deal was that every IP address on that forum (it was RPG one) was allowed only 1 account so when she wanted more she came up with twin brothers. And because there was a lot of ppl doing what she did she had to come up with one hell of a cover story so admins wouldn't ban her. Weird.
I still feel extremely stupid and a lil bit hurt because my actual FIRST LOVE was effin FICTIONAL but I survived. :) It would be so much better if I picked a famous fictional dude though. :) Oh well, I'm almost over it now and me and that girl are still very very close and I forgave her so no big deal.
But still, not half that messed up as your story. I hope you do find him and then you should totally post his true identity all over the internet for others to beware that freak.
Let the nerd force be with you! :)
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