Hall of Fame “Relationship” Posts Include:
- Getting engaged and married during a global pandemic
- Going out on 103 dates in 9 months (accidentally) using the OkCupid algorithm
- Being a Wing woman for “The Game” author Neil Strauss
- A LOT of destination dating
- Being a DIY Domme and owning slaves,
- Embracing bisexuality
- Epic levels of humiliation (that still make me blush)
- Ghosting Los Angeles and moving to an island for a guy
- And then having another guy Uber Producer Jerry Bruckheimer, bring me back to LA (where I met my husband)!”
"Non-Hall of Fame Relationship" posts ... but still titillating & informative:
#RealDeal: What To Do When a Guy Says He’s Not Ready
A guy might tell you that he’s not ready for a relationship in many situations. It could be because of his history with relationships, insecurities he has about himself, or because of specific reasons related to you. Whatever the case may be, listen to the reason why he says he’s not ready before reacting.
#ActuallyAutistic: What Are Signs of Disrespect in a Relationship?
I had a lot of trouble in my 20s understanding certain social cues. (I wasn’t diagnosed as having autism until earlier this year.) I would give people the benefit of the doubt or lean on “my feelings” to justify the actions of others.
#RealDeal: Can a Relationship Go Back to Normal After Cheating?
It’s possible to repair a relationship that has been damaged by cheating. However, it will require a lot of hard work from both parties involved. The following tips can help make the process a little bit easier.
#NerdsUnite: Celebrating Love: 5 Ways To Plan a Memorable Wedding
Your wedding should be the perfect party for you and your guests. Get tips from the pros on how you can plan a memorable wedding that everyone has a blast at!
#Question: How Quickly Do Men Fall in Love?
According to Reader’s Digest, most men fall in love faster than most women. On average, men say “I love you,” as early as 88 days into a new relationship. Of course, men fall in love at different speeds depending on age, the other person, and circumstance.
#NerdsUnite: How To Successfully Celebrate Your Partner’s Promotion
You know how hard your partner worked to earn that promotion. And now you can show them how proud you are with a proper and successful celebration.
#NerdsUnite: Date night ideas for people who live in small towns
Living in a small town does not mean your relationship can’t have excitement. Consider some of these fantastic date night ideas with your partner.
#NerdsUnite: How to coordinate with your bride without seeing her dress
Even if your bride-to-be is planning most of the details, choosing your own suit
should be up to you. Here are some tips to match her outfit perfectly.
#NerdsUnite: Important Decisions To Make Before Marriage
Marriage is a significant step for many couples, and it comes with a lot of necessary decisions. Here are the important decisions to make before marriage.
#TrueStory: I lost my virginity in a cheap motel to a boy I met in a pool hall
I wrote this post originally in my 20s. Sometimes I’ll update the posts with commentary from a 30 something year old … and sometimes I’m a purist and want to leave posts as they are. Either way, yes, I did lose my virginity in a cheap motel to a boy I met in a pool hall. Maestro … I finished high school early, and was planning on moving out to NYC. I was going to be studying at the Lee Strasberg Theater Institute in Manhattan, and the parentals were gracious enough to help out with an apartment one minute from the school. Yep, I had my own apartment at 17 in Manhattan. Kinda rad … but either way, I had this odd irrational fear that by being a virgin and officially “living on my own” – I would do something stupid … or boys would be able to smell that I was a virgin and it would be weird. I’m not kidding. I thought people could “smell” that you were a virgin. I’m sure I even justified said irrational fear by saying that well technically speaking, the sweat your body secretes when you have anxiety over a situation you’ve never been in before …. blah blah blah. I assure you, I probably at the time had a very valid reason for thinking this – hahahaaha I was killer in debate, and loved researching weird shit online. I never dated in high school. Like at all. Like anyone. Like ever. Well, Joshie and I kinda dated twice – but he didn’t want anything serious until he had his license and frankly at that point, I was already done with school. But yeah – either way, I had no one on my radar screen. My best friend and I followed a bit of the alternative crowd, so we used to go to some pretty dodgey places – one of them being this pool hall on the Berlin Turnpike. We were always on the look out for boys, and thought the boys in Berlin were uber hotties. Anyway, April 2001, we get to the pool hall, scope around – TOTALLY on the prowl … not necessarily thinking about looking for a guy to take my virginity, but just our normal Friday night hunt. I walk over to this one table, and see these two boys; one of them in particular is just wow, unbelievable, jaw droppingly beautiful. Super dark hair, light eyes, pale skin – I mean wow. Could to this day TOTALLY pass as Pete Cashmore’s brother or cousin. They seemed a bit lost in their own world so after 5 minutes of batting my big blue eyes I thought, well, I’m not getting any younger here … and stroll up to their pool table. At the time, I was a newbie to playing pool – and very literally didn’t even know how to hold the pool stick. With my best practice audition for a porno, I sashay on over and say
#NerdsUnite: How To Get a Guy To Chase You
It’s not easy to get a guy to chase you. In fact, it can be downright impossible if you don’t know what you’re doing. But with the right approach, it is definitely possible. And in this article, I am going to teach you everything you need to know in order to make a man chase after you like crazy.
#RealDeal: What Is Relationship Jumping and What Does It Mean?
Relationship jumping is when someone jumps from one relationship to another without any space of singleness in between.
#OriginStory: That awkward moment when your foot slave’s girlfriend texts you
One guy from Toronto hit me up last week asking if he could fly down for a session with me. I obviously got excited, and then also realized this coincided with our stage show so how cool would it be to dominate him LIVE ON STAGE!!!
#NerdsUnite: When Should You Delete Your Dating Profile?
First things first, you should never delete your dating profile if you’re an active member of the site. If you are meeting members or interacting with other users then it goes without saying that your account should remain open, for obvious reasons.
#RealDeal: What He Thinks When You Don’t Text Him 
Many relationship experts advise women to stop texting a guy to get his attention. But what does he really think when you don’t text him? Does not texting him work? What if he doesn’t care or notice? In this article, you’ll learn the answers to these questions and more.
#NerdsUnite: Ways Dual-Career Couples Make Their Relationships Work
When both of you maintain demanding careers, it can be hard to find time for each
other. Learn ways dual-career couples make their relationships work.
#OriginStory: I had read about this fetish on Urban Dictionary, and yep, it’s actually “a thing!”
Talk Nerdy To Me: Being jolted into my head meant that my own orgasm wasn’t going to happen. Not wanting to spoil his, I talked dirty in his ear choosing words as my weapon against mass deconstruction. He quickly finished, and as we rolled over ontop of each other, he went straight to sleep and I wa
#NerdsUnite: 7 Online Dating Tips for Women (That Actually Work)
#Talk Nerdy To Me™‘s @StaffWriter A quick Google search will bring you face-to-face with an endless confusion of online dating tips for women. It’s hard to know what to believe and which tips to apply. That’s why, in this article, you’ll read 7 online dating tips for women … that actually work. 1) Don’t Get Too Personal Before Meeting in Person The goal of online dating is to create a connection and eventually meet in person. To do that, you need the man’s attention. You can easily get his attention by sharing your stories with him; however, this is not the best way to go about it. Sharing personal information may make you feel vulnerable which scares off some guys because they are unsure how to handle these feelings. Instead of coming across as intense, focus on the conversations at hand. Avoid overwhelming him with too much detail at once. You can always discuss more about yourself later when you’re more comfortable around each other. Getting to know someone is all about showing interest without getting too personal too soon. 2) Be Honest in Your Photos and Bio Honesty really is the best policy. Any potential match will eventually find out the truth anyway. Being upfront about your expectations is better than being judged for it. Many women are selective with their pictures to make themselves look much younger or at least thinner. You can also touch up your photos or remove one that didn’t turn out the way you wanted. While there’s nothing wrong with wanting to look good in your photographs, do so responsibly and without misleading others. 3) Be Positive in Your Bio Your profile bio should also focus on what kind of relationship you want instead of explaining why nobody wants you which will come across as too desperate. If possible, keep your profile short and simple because nobody enjoys reading long-winded bios full of negativity. You’ll get much better results by keeping your bio positive. Talk about what you want, not what you don’t want. Definitely don’t use the bio as a platform to vent all of your bad dating experiences to date. 4) Utilize Social Networks Although this isn’t something you should do only for online dating, it’s still worth mentioning. You can utilize your social networks to find out more about the guy before agreeing to an in-person meeting. Search his name on Google, Facebook, or Twitter using keywords like “dating,” “online” or anything related to your conversation with him. If he has no problem sharing details of his life on these platforms, odds are that he will not mind if you search for him there, too. You may find out something that disqualifies him in your mind. Better to find out before meeting than ten dates into a budding relationship. Do due diligence before the first date. 5) Match With People at Your Same or Close Attraction Level All of us want to date better-looking people. We often see ourselves with rose-colored
#OriginStory: That time I got stiffed (instead of getting something stiff)
<EditorsNote> One of the many very very cool things about being autistic is that we write things out. It’s a huge part of my mental health actually – I need to write. There are over 7,500 blog posts (from Talk Nerdy To Me, Lover) that have now been trimmed to a “best of” Talk Nerdy To Me™. If you’re new, welcome!! These origin stories are a part of how I found out I’m autistic and have a neurological condition called Synesthesia. It was QUITE the journey getting here!!! Have a laugh … or a cry … or both. Much love!! xo Jen </EditorsNote> Last Friday, I went to the local watering hole with my best friend (who happens to be gay, a guy, and not into anything tech), and somewhere near the end of our first glass of wine, I referenced a gif I had sent to a guy on Bumble, “let me show it to you,” I said grabbing my phone. As I pulled up Bumble, I quickly realized I couldn’t find the conversation. “Oh, I said laughing, he clearly googled me and unmatched.” “Why would someone unmatch with you?” he asked confused. “I fully disclose in my profile that I’m a writer and that I have the blog. Some men get weirded out by it.” “Why do you need to fully disclose your blog to people?” I took a moment, and thought about it, before responding with “you’re right! I’ve spent my entire ‘career’ disclosing that information because my website and myself were one in the same. It’s been (almost) a decade, and one full lifetime later. So, why am I still doing this?” I immediately deleted my entire profile (and also took down my TedX picture) and changed my profile to this … The results were immediate, and on Monday, I texted him my findings … As I was texting him, I got YET ANOTHER text from YET ANOTHER date … I’m a sapiosexual, so leading with “just” my looks was the LAST thing on my mind. I’m a hot chick, why the fuck did I not think of leading with that!!! Who knew dating could be so easy??? Well done, Friel. You’re for once not over thinking things. Now, onto the post … The more honest I’ve been able to be with myself, the more that I realized I never actually made dating a priority. I made dating a business yes, but a priority no. When I reread texts or (even worst) posts, I noticed a pattern in starting them off with … “I thought I was going to meet this guy, and then I had this work thing come up …” If I really want what I say I want, this should be the only coming I’m focused on … The seizure I had back in September was such a blessing in disguise; it forced me to face my own mortality, which then lead to a stronger focus on what my intentions are. I want a family, and to make that
#Question: What To Do When Online Dating Doesn’t Work?
You’re online dating and it’s not working out. It sucks when you can’t find someone who gets your sense of humor or shares the same interests that you do. Or maybe they just don’t want to date anymore because they found somebody else. But it’s okay because there are other fish in the sea! Literally!
#TruthBomb: What Do Men Find Most Attractive in a Woman?
Men find many things attractive in women, and different men find different things attractive in different women. However, the vast majority of men find one thing most attractive in a woman.
That single trait is peace.
#NerdsUnite: How To Move a Texting Relationship Forward (10 Tips)
Texting can be a great way to get to know someone, but it’s easy to get stuck texting forever. Before you know it, you’re in a “texting relationship”. That can really suck. You might want to move the relationship forward, but you don’t know-how. Therefore, in this article, we’ll share the eight best ways to move a texting relationship forward.
#RealDeal: Why Guys Stop Talking to You After a Hookup
After you sleep with them, men might stop talking to you. They’re happy to hook up but after that, they never want another date again.Why does this happen? And what can you do about it? Here’s why guys stop talking to you after a hookup.
#RealDeal: How LOTR’s put me in the “Friend Zone” & why it’s awesome
Having nothing else to do on a Saturday night I found myself catching up on some of Jen’s older posts, specifically about her past dates and relationship. I guess I found myself doing this as I have been recently hanging out (yes…just hangin’) with a specimen of the female variety which I thought may lead to some type of relationship, which in the end didn’t (but more on this later).
Why Guys Stop Talking to You After a Hookup
After you sleep with them, men might stop talking to you. They’re happy to hook up but after that, they never want another date again.
Why does this happen? And what can you do about it? Here’s why guys stop talking to you after a hookup.
Can Texting Ruin a Relationship?
Texting is a major part of relationships. Texting can help us connect, stay in touch, prevent problems, and create opportunities for relationships to thrive.
However, texting can also mess up relationships. In fact, texting can even ruin relationships.
Texting can ruin relationships because of all the reasons listed below in this article.
#TheTimeHasCome: How To End a Relationship
When it’s time to end your relationship, it’s good to have a plan. It can be difficult to end a relationship, but if you follow some simple steps, you will make it through your breakup with the least amount of pain and drama.
#RealDeal: What are healthy vs toxic relationships?
Every day, relationships come and go. Some are short-lived while others last a lifetime. Sometimes relationships can be complicated by other life circumstances such as stress from school or work. Other times, the relationship itself may be complex in nature. While it is normal to have disagreements in a relationship, healthy relationships look and feel very differently than toxic relationships.
#Question: What Are Karmic Relationships?
A karmic relationship is an ongoing connection between two people that extends beyond the lifetime of each individual. The complementary actions, lessons, and needs of both parties have been brought together in this lifetime for resolution.
#NerdsUnite: What Are the 4 Types of Relationships?
There are four types of relationships: toxic, neutral, healthy, and transcendent.
Each type of relationship has its own set of qualities. The following are the defining characteristics of toxic, neutral, healthy, and transcendent relationships.
#NerdsUnite: How To Recover from Toxic Relationships
It’s not always easy to realize when you are in a toxic relationship. Sometimes, it can be hard to notice the warning signs. However, there are some definite things that should make you think twice about your relationship if they come up often enough.
#RealDeal: What Is a Symbiotic Relationship?
A symbiotic relationship is typically a close, long-term relationship between two different species. Both species involved in the symbiotic relationship benefit from the association. Symbiotic relationships can be found all over nature, in both the plant and animal kingdoms.
There can also be a typ
#Question: How To Know if a Guy Likes You or Just Wants You
It’s never easy to tell if a guy likes you or if he’s just using you for your body. Sometimes it can be hard to differentiate between the two. If you’re not sure whether or not the guy you’re interested in really likes you, there are a few things you can look out for. In this article, we’ll discuss some of the signs that a guy is only interested in your body. We’ll also provide some tips on how to tell if he’s really into you.
#NerdsUnite: What To Do When a Guy Doesn’t Want To Talk
There’s nothing more frustrating than when you’re trying to have a conversation with someone, but they just won’t talk.
Maybe you’ve been talking to them for a while, and they suddenly go quiet, or maybe they don’t even seem to be listening to what you’re saying. It can be frustrating, and it’s hard to know what to do about it.
#NerdsUnite: 11 Signs of a Rebound Relationship
It’s normal to feel a little lonely after a break-up. But if you’re feeling really lonely, and you find yourself jumping into new relationships before you’ve had time to heal, then it might be time to take a step back and look at what’s going on.
Here are 11 signs that you are in a relationship rebound.
#NerdsUnite: What Are the Body Language Signs of Disgust?
There are some things in this world that almost all of us universally hate. There’s the sound of fingernails on a chalkboard or the sight and smell of a skunk. But what about disgust? What are the body language signs of disgust? Disgust is not only universal among humans, but it’s also been observed in other animals.
#Question: How Do You Get the Spark Back in a Broken Relationship?
You have been in a relationship for years and it has come to the point where the spark is long gone. You’ve been together for so long and you know that you’re not happy, but what do you do about it?
Is there anything you can do to get the spark back in a broken relationship? Are there any tips you
#NerdsUnite: The Body Language of Rejection
Rejection is one of the most common and difficult experiences that we face in life. It can be especially hard when it comes from someone we care about, like a friend or family member. We may feel like we did something wrong, or that there is something wrong with us. We may wonder what we could have done to make them reject us.
#NerdsUnite: 10 Tips To Survive The Mid-Relationship Apocalypse
There are moments in every relationship that can be classified as “rough patches.” We’ve all been there. But what should you do when you feel like you’re in a place where it’s more than just a rough patch?
Should you talk to your partner about what’s going on? Should you start to distance
#Question: Can a Relationship Work if You Don’t Like Their Family?
Most people think that in order for a relationship to work, both partners have to get along with each other’s families. But what if you don’t like your partner’s family? Can the relationship still work?
