Frustrated you’re not getting the kind of return you are looking for while using an online dating site?
I feel yo’ pain nerdy fellas!!!
I was recently scoping ::cough cough stalking:: some cuties over on the site Date My School, and it hit me just how MUCH these dudes have no clue how to market themselves to a woman.
Taking this as an opportunity, I’d like to offer some tips and tricks today on how to set up your photos on your DMS profile.
Let’s first start with some “donts” …
1) Don’t have any “in the mirror” photos.
In the mirror photos are sooooo circa 2006 Myspace. They’re lame, and 90% of the time gunk in your mirror shows up which will only tell a woman that you need to clean more. Just don’t do it, they’re a HUGE HUGE no no and no one cares to see your “blue steel” face.
2) Don’t have more than one photo of you drinking.
I know DMS is primarily for college kids, but PLLEEAASSSEEEE make sure you guys don’t have more than one photo of you drinking. I don’t care about you playing beer pong, or chugging some epicly awesome beer – it’s lame, and will only show the female that you’re a lush which means she may or may not have to take care of you at the end of the night.
Getting drunk and having your girl take care of you after a few months of dating is expected. Getting drunk on the first date and having your date have to take care of you is pathetic.
3) Don’t have more than one self portrait photo booth.
I can’t begin to tell you how many DMS profiles I’ve seen with MULTIPLE self portrait photo booth shots. You know the ones, you’re in the same exact shirt (sans the mirror), same pose, just different face. I don’t care to see your serious, not so serious, and sexy sexy face. Having a single photo booth photo is good, having more than that screams “I spend way too much time alone.”
Alrite, now that I’ve torn you guys apart ready for some rebuilding?
Here are some of the dos …
1) Do tell the story of your life in pictures.
My DMS profile tells you the story of my life …
There I am with my social media avatar photo (this counts as my one photo booth photo), skydiving, getting ditched on a date in a bikini (my only in the mirror photo but I get away with it because I’m a chick and I’m in a bikini. Guys aren’t allowed to do that – double standard, yes, but I will own it.), bartering social media to couch surf at an epic winery, and on the red carpet for one of my favorite shows.
That’s me in pictures, and gives you generally speaking a look into my life and a look into who I am as a person.
Who are you? What photos from your life would symbolize who you are?
Maybe you’re an athlete, or an actor. Do you have photos of you on the field or on the stage? Show ’em!! They don’t commercially speaking have to be the best photos but they DO have to tell the story of who you are.
Show me a glimpse into your life, and show me who you are.
Do you like hiking? AWESOME! Display a picture of you climbing some epic hill.
Like hiking but don’t have a photo of you hiking?
Grab a friend and ask them to take a picture of you while you are out and about.
Don’t have a friend that can take a photo for you?
Well, that’s a different problem, and dating won’t be able to fix it.
Moving on …
2) Do have a good headshot with a genuine smile.
Here’s a secret nerds, but women can actually tell when you have a genuine smile in photos. You know the one that I mean too … remember that photo of you when you were having an AWESOME time at that event and you had that grin from ear to ear? Maybe that photo is even framed on your desk somewhere?
Take a look at your smile in that photo and emulate it in your default photo.
(This should be your only photo booth photo btw.)
Set up your computer arms length away, open up photo booth, think of that memory and snap the picture.
Take as many as you need, but the framing should look something like this …
You can see a clear shot of my face, and partially down my body. This photo is my default on all my social sites because even when it is populated in a thumb nail you can still clearly see my face.
Women. Want. To. See. Your. Face.
Take off the hats, sunglasses, spirithoods, and show just a CLEAR shot of your face with a genuine smile.
Let her at that point judge your level of attraction. Don’t. hide. anything.
Was this as good for you as it was for me?
Great! Happy to help!!