Talk Nerdy To Me’s @StaffWriter:
You’re online dating and it’s not working out. It sucks when you can’t find someone who gets your sense of humor or shares the same interests that you do. Or maybe they just don’t want to date anymore because they found somebody else. But it’s okay because there are other fish in the sea! Literally!
There are so many people on these websites and even more in real life. And if one doesn’t work out, then another will come along eventually. You just need to keep putting yourself out there until you find the perfect person for you.
Here’s what to do when online dating doesn’t work.
Take a Break
When you try something for the first time, it can be really frustrating if you don’t like it or if it doesn’t work out. So how about not doing anything for a while?
Take a break. Focus on yourself. Immerse yourself in a hobby. Do something that makes you happy. You haven’t found your soulmate yet but that doesn’t mean they aren’t out there.
Join a local club or group to meet new people. Want to meet new people in an environment that’s more low-pressure than online dating? Try volunteering. If you have time, go out with friends. Find something you enjoy doing and do it with someone else.
Change Your Dating Profile
If your profile is getting no attention, then maybe it’s time for a change. Remove anything that might be a dealbreaker. Maybe you’re really into video games and not so much into pop culture. If your profile says that, then it might be getting overlooked when people are looking for someone who shares their interests.
Maybe your pictures just aren’t up to snuff. The selfie in front of the bathroom mirror isn’t going to cut it anymore. Get a cute picture with your pet or a friend instead.
Experiment with different bios. Try something serious, funny, sarcastic, or in-between. You never know what might work.
Go Out More Often
Don’t wait around for Mr./Mrs. Right to come knocking at your door, because they probably won’t. Go out and meet people who share your hobbies and interests but don’t have any expectations about anything further than a friendship. Maybe something will spark between the two of you. Or maybe you’ll meet someone along the way who wants to go on a date. Just have fun!
Be More Open-Minded
Not every other person out there is going to be your soulmate. So, what if that means that your perfect match isn’t Mr./Mrs. Right at all? Maybe he or she is Mr./Mrs. Right Now, instead of Mr./Mrs. Forever.
Either way, they are still perfect for you right now. And besides, even if it doesn’t work out with them, you never know when something better will come around the corner.
Don’t give up hope yet.
Open your mind to new kinds of relationships and possibilities.
Go Boss Mode
This is prime time to reach your full potential. If you’re not happy with yourself, then now is the time to change that.
Are you in a job that you hate? Look for something new. On the other hand, if your current job is great, buckle down and work even harder. Work on your art or hobby outside of work hours too. If you’re always busy, people will be more likely to notice how awesome you are.
When online dating doesn’t work out it can make someone feel like they’ve failed. But sometimes failure leads to success if one learns from their mistakes. What’s holding you back? Sometimes it’s as simple as knowing what to say or do next time around!
Don’t give up on love just yet. Keep making strides in the right direction!
Work On Your Physical Appearance
Love yourself for who you are, but almost all of us can improve our physical appearance in one way or another. Hit the gym, lose weight, muscle up, strengthen your abs—do whatever you need to do to feel confident and happy.
This is a great time to push yourself physically and mentally and work on becoming better than who you were yesterday.
Be Open About Your Past
Everyone has skeletons in their closet that they don’t want people to know about. The thing is, if someone doesn’t like you for who you really are, then it probably wasn’t going to work out anyway.
Own up to the things in your past and be honest about them from now on. You might find that once those barriers are down, people see you as more open and approachable. This will make it easier for new people in your life- whether romance enters the picture or not.
Change Up Your Messaging Habits
Many guys don’t send very interesting first messages. Or they spend too much time messaging back and forth before setting up an in-person date.
Try to think outside the box when messaging someone new. Send a funny GIF instead of replying in text form. Ask an unexpected question. Or make a friendly joke about their profile picture.
Don’t Settle for Anything Less Than What You Want
If you’re just looking for quick, random hookups then go ahead and be upfront about that. But if you’re looking for something deeper, don’t let anyone convince you otherwise without giving them a chance first. Tell them what things are important to you and ask them the same questions before agreeing to meet up with them in person.
Stop Thinking That the Grass Is Always Greener
Not everyone is going to be 100% your type. The perfect man or woman does not exist. If you’ve been on 75+ dates with no serious connection, you might be suffering from “shiny object syndrome.”
Otherwise called “thinking the grass is always greener” somewhere else.
Many potential online romances fizzle out because people hop from one match to the next. With endless matches, we don’t take time to develop real connections with anyone. We become attached to the idea of finding someone better instead of appreciating what we already have.
Once the initial excitement wears off, you’ll realize that this person isn’t exactly who you thought they were. And then you are back at square one with no proverbial shoulder to cry on.