<editorsnote> Nerds, meet my buddy Anwar. We met in Florida last year, and it was because of him that I got to go out on a date with Steve Ward. True story – Anwar tweeted about Steve’s Ustream broadcast, and that’s where I asked him out. That shit cray! He’s a rad mofo, and active in the pick up artist community (PUA) and wants to share his tips and tricks with you today. I only have one more thing left to say … HIT IT ANWAR!! </editorsnote>
Last year in October I went out 6 days in a row without realizing it. At the end of the 6th day, I was accompanied home by a 5’11 blonde who seemed to have a taste for chocolate chip cookies.
After our private party, I asked her directly “When did you know you were attracted to me?” From what I knew of her already I expected some superficial response like “Because you could douggie.” But I was surprised when she said, “I don’t know, but the way you dance and how you spoke to everyone around you and kept smiling. I found that to be so attractive.”
Take note to the bold lettering in the quote.
That’s the focus of today’s lesson gents. How to build Social Proof with only brand you need…YOU!!
What is Social Proof? The short term would be… “Any consecutive event that gives evidence of value.” For example, the guy at the arcade who won 30 consecutive matches in Tekken. People will continue to gather around to watch him. Same goes for attraction, females will observe you the more they perceive you to be a value source. (Preselection)
<Pause> I’m explaining from the view your out alone.</pause>
It’s starts when you walk in. Do NOT and I repeat Do NOT head straight to the bar without at least talking to 3-5 people first. Why you ask? Just think about it, perception is reality. This goes for women and guys alike, people will make assumptions of your value based on how you socialize. From the get go, you come in and start talking, dancing and shooting a few hi-5s to random people. The women will see evidence of your value by the reaction of others.
3 things I do when I walk in:
- Get to the club early around 10pm. It’s not packed and it’s prime for starting conversations with people you don’t know.
- Talk to a bouncer, beertub girl or bartender. Remember, don’t talk for a long time because they are working. Keep it short 30-90 seconds.
- Open a few strangers to get myself in the rhythm of talking to people.
After I procure a drink. I always like to open whomever is standing next to me and start a light conversation about the night. Afterwards I’d move to a more traffic area of the club like the dancefloor, near the entrance, exit or the stairs if they have one. From there, you should be seen smiling and having fun.
The How To…
Now, you’ve set up a home base. Begin to engage the people around you. Befriend everyone within 5-10ft range of where your standing. The home base’s purpose is just a spot where you can come back to a re-group. It’s true purpose is to create a web of Social Proof, which means your the source of the value in that specific spot of the club.
Spider webs are built from the center then outwards. Imagine that your at the center and in your mind you expend your web out 5-10ft. Picture yourself making people laugh, posing for pictures, dancing and just overall.. being the source of fun in the whole venue. Naturally, you become the observed in your way of being.
In this process, people will notice the source of good emotions is coming from you. While men will normally come and engage you, women approach you indirectly. We call this proximity. This is when girls move closer to the PUA , usually with most interested one not facing us.
Now you’ve become preselected. To her, you’re the shit and nothing else matters. In her mind your value just broke the roof and she wants you to be her personal pogo stick. To understand preselection is as Adam Lyons explains:
So, think about it. The next time your at the bar sitting on the wall with your drink held high. Ask yourself, are you the observer or the observed. You can’t make women attracted to you by chilling on the wall putting on your you ate ass face.
Remember to engage and give value to people. Be the flame that lights up the room not the wind who blows it out.
I’ve ran my mouth long enough today. Thank you for reading everyone, I really appreciate the opportunity to write for TNTML. I’m damn sure bringing the Funk on the next post. Until then ladies.. Keep denying us in the clubs and men.. STOP being Pussies…