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#NerdsUnite: Like energy attracting even in traffic!

March 15, 2013 3 Mins Read
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<tangent> Funny story about the outfit I wore last night on my Traffic Date … 

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My first job in LA was working for these AMAZING movie marketing companies. Two were housed within the building and I started off as their receptionist. Every day there were a lot of packages that came and went, and I spoke to this one service dispatcher all the time. About a year into our daily interaction, I had a package dropped off for ME on my desk. 

What is this? I asked the delivery dude. 

It’s from us, he said. You’re so nice and polite, and we deal with a lot of assholes in this business. We appreciate how kind you are, so thank you. 

I was COMPLETELY floored. I opened up the package and it was $100 gift certificate to Polka dots and moonbeams (this posh vintage shop on 3rd street) and a bunch of little gifts. 

I obviously called and said thank you, even following it up with a little note … but just by being kind and saying my pleases and thank yous the universe regifted back with something I could use!! To have the LUXURY of buying something for myself when I was living on a diet of ramen, and soda?!?! BEYOND AMAZING!!! 

I then went and purchased that tunic and I even kept it after giving up everything I owned. I love love love the story, and it serves as this reminder to continue to love and be kind to others – always. </tangent> 

Anyway … so I’m sticking to my guns about not discussing my dating life in real time anymore. It never ends up benefiting me having the dude be able to read on this site the day after a date how he did. 

HOWEVER, I can say one thing that thoroughly impressed me was how grounded he was. It freaked me out actually and made me question how much of the OkCupid algorithm actually did work. 

So, everything I did back in 2011 with the 103 dates in 9 months were rooted on OKC and with an unpublished 85% compatibility prerequisite on the OKC algorithm for those that don’t know. I was trying to break my pattern of dating douches and what I discovered was that I was the douche. 

Heavy. 

I still check OKC all the time to see what’s out there, but last night I got hit up by a dude that I dated right as I was starting the social experiment. He recently got out of a relationship and we are a NINETY SIX % compatible, yet I thought back to my date and the guy I met in traffic who wasn’t into tech at all, obvi isn’t into social media, but I would say we were WAY more compatible personality wise. Dudes, we do SO many of the same quirky things. (He dropped the bomb that he too is a fan of solo dance parties. WHO ADMITS THAT?!?!!)

If the “butterflies in your stomach feeling” are emotional recognition, where does the logical side of personality compatibility come into play? Is there anything that highlights quirks which I think are FAR better at determining an initial bond with someone?! 

Ugh, this is all so frustrating. I really enjoy analysis but there ARE SO MANY VARIABLES!!!! 

I was just saying the other day how wildly random attraction is. It’s ALWAYS like energy attracting!!! That’s IT!!!! Then you have the added layer of wondering about a relationship and that boils down to timing. Where are you both in your life? Are your futures moving down the same path?! 

This shit makes my head hurt. 

Maybe there is something to this IRL dating thing. It certainly is more efficient. We met in traffic, had one quick text exchange, and boom drinks 24 hours later. 

Might be time to explore offline. 

Oh look it’s a PUPPY!!!! 

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