It is my goal to take a lot of my weird and wonky experiences as a lifecaster and help nerdy peeps out by providing a frank (not shirley) and honest answer to some weird and potentially random questions you may have about life.
Here is a question I got via email the other day …
aaahhhhh!!! The awkward drunken co-work hook up.
First of all, thanks for reading and thanks for reaching out. Super brave to put yourself out there.
I worked 9-5s for years and I pretty much made it a rule to never date a co-worker. It’s too incestuous and you spend too much time in an intimate setting. Obvi sexual tension and chemistry can’t be denied – but it HAS TO HAS TO HAS TO stop at just a friendly flirtation.
Now that you’ve gone over the line though, what are your options?
1) I would be super frank with her. Ask her to coffee (something neutral and no alcohol involved) and say hey, I had so much fun on New Years, thanks again for the hospitality but just wanted to clear the air on something …
2) Then, blame it on “where you are in your life.” No chick ever wants to hear that she’s not your type. Since you work with this person brutal honesty isn’t going to fly, so you’re going to have to sugar coat it to preserve the relationship. I would say something like, “you’re really wonderful and I hope this doesn’t affect our friendship. It means a lot to me so thats why I wanted to take this time to clear all this up.” As long as you say it with a genuine heart, she’s going to believe it and it’s not going to be cheesy. (And you SHOULD be genuine and grateful. Dude, you stuck your penis inside of her vagina!!)
Be super kind, loving, and gentle to her.
Also, download the app Taxi Magic or put the number for a local taxi cab company in your phone. This will keep you out of trouble next time.
Got a question? Drop me an email! JenFriel at TalkNerdyToMeLover dot com