#NerdsUnite: Ask That Nerdy Chick (he’s just not that into me, now what?

It is my goal for 2013 to take a lot of my weird and wonky experiences as a lifecaster and help nerdy peeps out by providing a frank (not shirley) and honest answer to some weird and potentially random questions you may have about life. 

Here is a question I got on Facebook this morning … 

Alrite, want some tough love? What the eff are you doing with this guy? You’re giving him all the power in this dynamic and he is making you optional nerd on hold because you’re allowing it. With friends like this guy who needs enemies? 

What are you doing to feed your dating pipeline? You are clearly fixating on this individual because you have this preexisting bond and connection, but have you taken other dates? Has he seen how desirable and much men want you? One guy isn’t enough. 

If your friend was into you he would have made a move. Period end of sentence. 

Also, a 34 year old besties with a 21 year old? The emotional maturity between the ages is quite great so that in and of itself makes me scratch my head. I couldn’t date a 34 year old when I was 21, unless all he wanted to do was party and talk about boys. (Which would be weird but this is LA and anything is possible.) 

Word of advice: Right now, create a profile on an online dating site. DateMySchool and OkCupid are free and good ones, but whatever makes more sense for you, just go for it. You need to get yourself out there and stop allowing friendships like this that do more to hurt your self esteem than help it. 

Thanks for reading hope this helps!! xoxo

Got a question? Drop me an email! JenFriel at TalkNerdyToMeLover dot com

ORRRRR you can message me on Facebook and if it’s within 140 characters on the twitter!

Best of luck out there nerds!!

xoxo <3 @JenFriel