#NerdsUnite: Never Stop Learning
<editorsnote> Nerds, meet my buddy Eric. He is a MAASSTTEERRR social dynamics expert that will be talking about his experiences in the field from both an expert, and experience perspective. He's not just saying "this is how to get the girl" he's here to share his actual life stories and lessons learned from them. I only have one more thing left to say ... HIT IT ERIC !!</editorsnote>
#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @Redolpho
Life is one of the greatest adventures that we can embark on. I say ‘can’ because not everyone decides to treat their life as an adventure. Writing for this blog and starting this project with Jen has already been such a reflective experience. I was speaking with Jen the other day and I asked her what is most likely a common question of seasoned bloggers, “What should I write about?” After writing about 30 pieces that were purely instructional material I realized that this shit is going to bore the pants off of everyone. As an ever curious person I have a deep desire to gain something meaningful from this experience as well. Jen’s advice was simple, be transparent and put yourself out there. So I’m just going to blab here for a minute and I’d love your feedback if you have the time to reach out. You can contact me via email (eric.rudolph.carrillo@gmail.com), my Twitter (twitter.com/redolpho) or friend me on Facebook (facebook.com/redolpho). I’d love to talk. I’m so good at putting myself out there with people on an in-person level but doing it for a blog where I may never see so many of your faces is a whole new experience.
I have been couch-surfing for about two years now and interestingly enough I credit my exploration into social dynamics for my current state of habitation. When I began my adventure into social dynamics it really began as a exploration into myself. I wanted to shed my dork-dom for good, I wanted the quality of my sex to increase and I wanted to feel like I had something substantial to offer to the world. I think that deep down we all want to make a difference and leave our mark.
It’s interesting how sometimes our attraction to something can be so far separated from the meaning that we obtain from it. I wonder if it’s our subconscious doing the searching for us. My journey into social dynamics is no different. I started like most guys do, because of sexual interest. Four years later I’d say that what I’ve gained from it has been so much more substantial. The flip side is that I have come to expect so much more from myself, it’s a form of enlightenment that can be daunting.
I live a lot of my days wondering if I have what it takes to do something of meaning. What if I die and I’ve accomplished nothing meaningful? I pissed away so much of my early life and for a while now I’ve lived with this constant fear that I’m pissing away the next faze day by day. Although many people I meet tell me how much potential I have I’m still homeless. And although I know being 27 and living far below the poverty line contributes to it significantly, I still get depressed way too often.
All I want is to make a difference, live a life of passion and see the world. It’s easier said than done, I’ve had to sacrifice so much and I’m ready to feel the sun on my face. I want to be able to afford my own place again and do it by performing a job that I love, that actually matters. So I am just going to stay present and keep trying to learn something new every day.
For some reason I was blessed with an aptitude for social dynamics and I can’t think of a better way to make the world a better place. We all face our struggles in this world and I know that there are a lot of guys whose struggle is women. I’m not waiting any longer to start making a difference. Email, tweet or Facebook me your questions and I’ll answer one of them for an upcoming blog piece. I’m greatly looking forward to growing with this community because I need you just as much as some of you may need me. Cheers.
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If you’d like to share your stories please feel free to tweet me at @redolpho or email me at eric dot rudolph dot carrillo at gmail dot com