#NerdsUnite: 7 Online Dating Tips for Women (That Actually Work)
#Talk Nerdy To Me™‘s @StaffWriter
A quick Google search will bring you face-to-face with an endless confusion of online dating tips for women. It’s hard to know what to believe and which tips to apply.
That’s why, in this article, you’ll read 7 online dating tips for women … that actually work.
1) Don’t Get Too Personal Before Meeting in Person
The goal of online dating is to create a connection and eventually meet in person. To do that, you need the man’s attention. You can easily get his attention by sharing your stories with him; however, this is not the best way to go about it.
Sharing personal information may make you feel vulnerable which scares off some guys because they are unsure how to handle these feelings. Instead of coming across as intense, focus on the conversations at hand. Avoid overwhelming him with too much detail at once. You can always discuss more about yourself later when you’re more comfortable around each other. Getting to know someone is all about showing interest without getting too personal too soon.
2) Be Honest in Your Photos and Bio
Honesty really is the best policy. Any potential match will eventually find out the truth anyway. Being upfront about your expectations is better than being judged for it.
Many women are selective with their pictures to make themselves look much younger or at least thinner. You can also touch up your photos or remove one that didn’t turn out the way you wanted.
While there’s nothing wrong with wanting to look good in your photographs, do so responsibly and without misleading others.
3) Be Positive in Your Bio
Your profile bio should also focus on what kind of relationship you want instead of explaining why nobody wants you which will come across as too desperate. If possible, keep your profile short and simple because nobody enjoys reading long-winded bios full of negativity.
You’ll get much better results by keeping your bio positive.
Talk about what you want, not what you don’t want. Definitely don’t use the bio as a platform to vent all of your bad dating experiences to date.
4) Utilize Social Networks
Although this isn’t something you should do only for online dating, it’s still worth mentioning. You can utilize your social networks to find out more about the guy before agreeing to an in-person meeting.
Search his name on Google, Facebook, or Twitter using keywords like “dating,” “online” or anything related to your conversation with him. If he has no problem sharing details of his life on these platforms, odds are that he will not mind if you search for him there, too.
You may find out something that disqualifies him in your mind.
Better to find out before meeting than ten dates into a budding relationship. Do due diligence before the first date.
5) Match With People at Your Same or Close Attraction Level
All of us want to date better-looking people. We often see ourselves with rose-colored glasses. Many women make the mistake of only swiping right on the most attractive men or women on the platform.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to date someone you find incredibly attractive.
However, what many women experience is that these ultra-attractive people either don’t match with them, don’t send messages, or only want casual hookups. If you want better results (meaning actual conversations, dates, and even relationships), you must date at your same level of attraction.
6) Don’t Rush into Private Messages
Many women feel obligated to chat with everyone who swipes right on them and messages before they’re ready. It’s flattering to receive a message from someone you find attractive, but it takes effort not to fall for this trap.
Only message people who you intend to meet with in person.
7) Be Your Best Self
Moodiness, rudeness, and rampant attitude are a fast-track to dating failure. It’s time to be your best self. Be humble, graceful, and kind. Be cooperative, enthusiastic, and real.
Every date is an opportunity for you to build your life. Make it count.
Keep your standards but drop any entitlement. Know your worth but look at things from an outsider’s point of view. Both men and women tend to overvalue themselves in the relationship marketplace.
8) Be Intentional
Don’t online date by default. Be intentional. Know what you want, say what you want, and stick to what you want.
If you’re looking for a real relationship, don’t settle for a booty call. If you want a commitment, don’t give “girlfriend benefits” to a guy or girl you just met a few hours ago.
Make a dating plan and stick with your plan (no matter how hot and charming the person is on your dates).
9) Don’t Have Unrealistic Expectations
You don’t want to settle for a frog when you can get a prince. At the same time, the perfect Prince Charming only exists in fairytales. The rest of us mere mortals live down here on earth with flaws, pasts, and imperfections.
Don’t get sucked into the myth that you can always get the top 3% of men or women on any online dating platform.
Look for red flags but don’t invent red flags that don’t exist.
10) Realize That You Deserve Love
Lastly, remember that you deserve love, care, kindness, patience, acceptance, and respect. Don’t settle for less than what you deserve. The best way to get these qualities is to give them away first, so start being your best self and the rest will follow.
Don’t lose hope in online dating just because you’ve had a terrible experience with it. Millions of people have found love on the world wide web. You can be next!
Final Thoughts: Women looking for online dating tips should give these simple yet effective techniques a try. Most importantly, always be yourself. With just a few adjustments to your existing profile and search preferences, you’ll see results in no time flat. Don’t forget to have fun with it! Online dating can be a great way to meet new friends or even your future spouse, so enjoy every minute of the process.
